Oh no! They’re on to me! Help! —amusick
It's a tough call. Eventually you're going to have to get to a point where you are comfortable just saying no to things like this. (I have no problem with the email idea, if you're ready to make that step.) The challenge is if you agree to do this you may be making it harder on yourself to leave later. Members might remember that amusick just bore her testimony a few weeks ago and think that you were being two-faced.
All I'm suggesting is that you weigh that possibility in your decision. While I'd lean toward just saying no, I don't think there's anything wrong with playing along until you're ready. And for your own sake, may I suggest that you try to stop framing this as you "hurting" them. You can't own that; it's the church's dysfunctional system that makes someone else's disbelief somehow hurtful to them.
Best of luck,
6 months ago